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  • Writer's pictureEzekiel Ong

Shift the Stress: Replace "Got to" with "Get to" for a More Empowering Mindset

Updated: Mar 29

The way we talk to ourselves matters.

While seemingly insignificant, the difference between "I got to do something" and "I get to do something" can significantly impact your stress levels and overall outlook.

Have you ever noticed how saying "I got to do laundry" feels different from saying "I get to do laundry"? While both sentences refer to completing the same task, the subtle shift in wording can significantly impact your perception and approach.

Here's why.

The Burden of "Got To"

Phrases like "I got to work late", "I got to go to the gym", and "I got to clean the kitchen" often carry a weight of obligation and pressure. They imply an external force dictating your actions, leaving you feeling less in control and more stressed. This "Got To" mentality can fuel procrastination and resistance, making even routine tasks feel like burdens.

The Power of "Get To"

By simply replacing "got to" with "Get To," you unlock a powerful mindset shift. Instead of highlighting the obligation, you emphasize the opportunity. Instead of saying "I got to clean the kitchen," try "I get to clean the kitchen and create a relaxing space for myself." This shift empowers you, fostering a sense of ownership and control. You acknowledge the need for the action but also highlight the potential benefits.


  • Chores: Instead of "I got to clean the kitchen," try "I get to clean the kitchen and create a relaxing space for myself." This reframes the task from a chore to an opportunity for self-care.

  • Work: Instead of "I got to work late," try "I get to work late and finish this important project." This highlights the purpose and potential reward of your extra effort.

  • Exercise: Instead of "I got to go to the gym," try "I get to go to the gym and invest in my health and well-being through exercise. This a valuable use of my time." This emphasizes the positive impact of the activity.

  • Self Care: Change "I got to meditate" to "I get to cultivate my well-being and inner peace through meditation." This highlights the personal benefits of the practice.

  • Email: Instead of "I got to answer these emails," try "I get to connect with colleagues and address important tasks." This highlights the purpose and potential impact of your work.

  • Errands: Instead of "I got to go grocery shopping," try "I get to restock my kitchen and pick out delicious ingredients for myself." This emphasizes the positive outcome of the activity.


This shift is not about ignoring responsibilities. It's about recognizing them while choosing a more empowering perspective. By saying "Get To," you acknowledge the need while focusing on the opportunity for growth, accomplishment, and personal well-being.

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